Worried about sabotaging yourself? Take a deep breath and try these 5 things.
You’ve found a job that ticks your boxes and you’ve managed to convince the employer with a shiny CV that you tick theirs. High five! Now there’s just the small matter of the interview to get through…
Unfortunately, knowing we’ve got the skills, qualities and attitude to be great at the job doesn’t automatically mean we’ll ace the interview. Fear can hugely shake your confidence, especially if you’ve missed out on roles through the interview process in the past, so we asked Jo Usmar, author of This Book Will Make You Confident, to talk us through five easy tricks that will calm our interview nerves.
Do an interview role-play with a friend with some prepared questions (interview questions tend to be CV, behavioural and role-based) and ask them to throw in a couple of surprise ones to take you off-guard. Prepare answers that focus on your skills, knowledge and experience and match it to the job description.
Having a big sniff of a smell that reminds you of a good time or a pleasant memory just before the interview can help to calm you down. The olfactory bulb, which processes smell, is heavily connected to the parts of your brain that process memory and emotion (which is why a whiff of a certain perfume can give you a blast of nostalgia), making you feel better and more in control.
When we’re nervous we make up worst case scenarios in our heads that are total rubbish, but because we visualise them happening - because we actually see ourselves fall off our chair or insult our potential new boss – it seems likely to happen. This triggers the same panic in your body as if it had actually happened (heart racing, nausea, sweaty palms, cold feet).
So, imagine yourself succeeding instead. Athletes and actors often practise this technique before competing or performing. It puts their mind and body in the best possible place to recreate in reality exactly what they just saw in their head.
Messing up actually makes you more likeable. In a study, psychologist Elliot Aronson played recordings of people answering a quiz. In one of the recordings an actor ‘accidentally’ spilled coffee over himself and everyone listening voted that guy more likeable than the others. So, if you fluff an answer or lose your thread, just take a deep breath and say, “Sorry, I’m a little nervous”. No one likes a robot. Messing up, taking a moment and collecting yourself, will make you seem relatable and will show you care.
Just as actually feeling confident makes you look confident, learning how to look confident will make you feel more confident. It works both ways – a bit like how smiling can cheer you up. A study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology found that subjects who sat up straight in their chairs instead of slouching were more confident about the things they were then asked to write down. If you project an aura of capability people will respond to it. You can become that person. If you look the part, you’ll feel and act the part too. Here’s how:
Jo Usmar is the author of This Book Will Make You Confident and seven other self-help books in the This Book Will Make You series
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